Does SIZE matter?

Often times you'll hear: "It's not the size of the boat; it's the motion of the ocean.”

Oh good Lord! It surely MUST HAVE been a small dick man who made up that dumb ass cliché. I've been doing sex advice for ____ years. Let's just say ‘many'. It is highly rare that you'll find a woman who will say (and honestly mean it): “its true- size doesn't matter.” Let the proverbial cold water of reality splash you in the face and wake you the hell up! Size DOES matter- in lovemaking. For some, big time- no pun intended. Yet, the degree of importance varies from female to female.

The Size Queen

First there's the ‘size queen'. With this female the sheer grandness of the Johnson is of the up most importance. The length, the width the girth. With the size queen: the bigger the better. Even in his flaccid state, he still- majestically sits as if he's a swollen bulldog, ready to pounce and play. Thick and robust. Even when resting, he is something to marvel at. The sight of this big boy stops this woman in her tracks. She pauses, eyes growing larger and the simple thought of this mighty giant excites her to no end. Sweat beads upon her forehead. Her cheeks are flushed. Her breathing becomes shallow and right then and there, he becomes the object of her carnal desire. Her body language changes and resembles a feline perched to take flight at any moment to seize her prey. Mmmmmm the power he holds. The size queen is all about grand size and she's not afraid to say it.

The Jennifer

Then there's the ‘Jennifer' type of woman. “Jennifers” are the average everyday woman. A plain Jane in the world of “penis size” if you will. The Jennifer type, doesn't need the same ‘wow' factor the size queen demands. Instead a regular man size penis will do her just fine. She's not overly picky. Usually a “Jennifer” isn't impressed with large penis size. Many “Jennifers” are actually intimidated by a monster cock. Just give this average woman some average sized penis and all is good in the world.

The Headmaster

Next we have the headmaster. The headmaster's only M.O. is to search out the biggest fattest mushroom capped penis out there. The swollen topper gets this woman going. Usually fascinated with oral sex, the grander the head of the penis- the better. This fetish while known, isn't as common as the ‘size queen'. Many headmasters admit the stretch of the large head is a marvelous feeling. The headmaster's main focus is simply the size of the head not the length and girth of the shaft.

The Captain

We also have the- ‘Captain' short for the female ‘Captain Hook'. This woman loves a good curve and not on herself. She seeks out the curvaceous cocks. She wants the penis that hits her walls due to the degree of ‘bend' in any sexual position. The degree and type of curve one searches for vary from Captain to Captain. Some appreciate a slight bend to the right, left, up or down- while others seek a more definite arch. Different curves, arcs, bends provide the woman with a different type of sensation.

The Nympho

Lastly we have the Nympho. The Nympho simply loves sex-so the design of the cock really isn't the most important to her. Just give her some dick and she's a happy woman. Not picky about the particulars of penis size, what she desires more than anything is the act.

A woman can be any one of the above-mentioned stereotypes. She can even be a combination of any of the above. The point being every woman desires something different. Size included.

I recently did a radio interview where I answered sex advice on air. A gentleman called, worried that his girlfriend was cheating on him due to his penis size. After expressing his concern, I asked why after 5 years he was now worried about the size of his package. His response: “We recently had a mfm threesome and the other dude was HUNG. Like way bigger than me. Since that time, it's all she talks about” I then asked to speak to his girlfriend. She got on the line and indeed confessed that she's been fantasizing about the ‘hung' third wheel. As far as ‘cheating' though- no, she remained faithful and now she's contemplating if staying with her current partner was something she wanted to be in. After digging further it turns out that her beau's paranoia was her biggest concern. He always worried she was cheating. He worried that he was not tall enough. He didn't make enough money. He wasn't muscular enough- the list goes on. They had a date set to marry in 9 months and now after all this time, she was now beginning to second guess spending the rest of her life with her fiancé. “Lola, honestly- Steve is only my second lover. My first was my high school boyfriend. As an adult, I know nothing but him. Now that we've pushed our boundaries to threesomes- I'm starting to realize. There is more out there, much MUCH more. I do love him, but- I don't know; maybe he's not the one. He's definitely on the ‘smaller' side. Our friend that we shared the threesome with, was just such an amazing lover. I've never ever felt like that before. I'd never cheat on him. But his jealousy is a weakness and his insecurities are making him ‘ugly' in my eyes. It's pushing me away.” So, in Steve's estimation his small dick is the thing that broke the camel's back and his relationship. While in actuality, it wasn't. It was his insecurities, which is pushing his fiancé away. After several minutes of conversation, her love and loyalty to Steve was very apparent. She confessed that experiencing a ‘larger' lover was fun, yet in her eyes not necessary. She loved Steve and her heart belonged to him and his smaller penis. The third wheel, was just recreational. To her size wasn't important.

Penis size with in the Lifestyle is an interesting subject for sure. I myself am not one who enjoys ‘dick pics' when perusing online profiles of social networking sites. I don't mind seeing them. Yet, as a woman, I'd rather have the option of viewing them in the ‘locked' or ‘private' photos.   I hate when the FIRST default photo you see is a dick pic. Note to men: To the average woman….DICK PICS ARE NOT SEXY. Another pet peeve is when one sends you a dick pic- upon first contact. What exactly do you expect as a reaction? “ Why, thank you for the picture of your penis. Let's fuck! Oh, by the way…what's your name .”?   I think we all know what a penis looks like. So in the initial phase of meeting a person- common courtesy is advised. You wouldn't walk up to a woman in the office you are interested in and break out the schlong before extending your arm for a proper handshake. Meeting others in the Lifestyle commands the same respect. Yes, we are meeting up for possible recreational sex, but goodness gracious employ a bit of tact. With most women- if you seduce the mind…the body will follow.

So how do you turn down a “Tiny Tim”? Well, frankly- no one likes rejection, especially being on the receiving end, that's for sure. Being honest is said to be the best option- but let's be realistic. Men can be highly sensitive about their penis size. For many it defines their manhood. It's been like that in every civilization known in history. One can not always alter what they've been blessed with. For instance, there are many women who naturally have a smaller breast size. While today's technology allows us the option to enhance our breast size- there are many women who opt not to. Yet that doesn't always hold true for men and penis size. While there are some reconstructive options for the average man, this it isn't realistic for many. Not as obtainable as breast enhancement.   Now if a small chest woman were to engage in a sexual situation and her playmate belittled her breast size, it would be devastating. The same applies with a man's penis size. Why would one want to be mean spirited in such a delicate situation? If you find yourself in a situation with a lover who is less than adequate in your standards- my suggestion would be to gracefully get out. Staying could lead to an overwhelming uncomfortable situation for all involved. Be respectful. No rudeness necessary. Just think about it- if you were the small dick man or the first lady of the itty biddy titty committee, would you really want to be called out… and rudely none the less? I think not. Be an adult. Be kind. Employ some class and bid everyone a ‘good night', with a tasteful reason for leaving of course.

Perhaps taking preventative measures should be considered. If you are active in online Lifestyle social networking, start by creating an alluring and informative profile. If you have specific desires in your potential playmate, state them. This does two things. First it makes you desires crystal clear so you'll never be put in the position of ‘unknown'. Your profile will speak for you and those who are drawn to your description will seek you out. Secondly for the man, you'll have the comfort of knowing that the woman you are about to encounter is seeking someone like you. If a gentleman is self-conscience about the penis he has, finding a profile that is descriptive enough, can give him insight in finding the right playmate for him to have comfortable and enhanced experience. Let's face it, if a profile clearly states: She appreciates a nicely curved cock going left and you have that nicely curved cock going left- I'd suggest you allow your fingers to do the walking and send her an email. Not to mention, it cuts the online banter, and allows you to have a more direct lead to the others you may naturally have chemistry with.

So the point is this: dick size can matter. Yet it holds different importance and value to everyone. Each person has individual preferences. Bigger doesn't always equal better. Like with anything, if you are ever unsure about a possible playmates preference- simply ask. Open up the lines of communication. Communication is the key to making all your Lifestyle experiences more successful & memorable- for all involved.

Lola Be well. Be you. (dick size and all)