The pheromones you two possess this evening have led you to meet the sexy couple you've been hoping and wishing for. You all agree the rendezvous point will be a predetermined dark location inside a local bar in town. Before you leave home-you go over your specific boundaries of do's and don'ts. Suddenly you find yourself back at their place sipping on some good wine, laughing it up and having a great time. Ironically, out from the stereo, Nelly is heard: “ It's getting hot in here, so take off all your clothes ”…and you do as Nelly says. The ladies are in full discovery mode of each other's weak spots as the guys look on.   They kiss as their bodies intertwine. Wine bottles are scattered amoungst the silky under garments from Victoria's Secret. As they come up for air, you hear the ladies whisper to one another and then…the moment the guys have been waitng for…index fingers with a definite invitation becomes reality. You jump right in. But wait! What about protection? And just what is safe sex?

We may have painted a senario that could very well been a scene from a Mickey Rouke film, but this scenario plays out more often than you may think. One of the biggest misconceptions by some who participate in soft and full swapping, even general touching, is that because you're in a lifestyle of like-mind people and you've met an attractive couple who seem to be “healthy" -you figure…."What the heck? Let's go for it." This is a dangerous notion and all should be more responsible in pursuing your lifestyle pleasures.

You don't need us to remind you of the STD statistics, especially HIV. These numbers are still way too high to let your guard down. Having the freedom to make lifestyle choices does not give you the freedom to make certain choices for anyone else.

Don't mean to be a buzz kill here, but we did promise to be a no-holds barred consciousness for all to deem what is relevant or not in their perspective lives. We have seen and have acutually participated in girl-girl senarios where we females tend to lead the way for the team, so to speak. We meet a hot female at a sexy lifesyle event where dancing and deep kissing persues, yet only moments ago met for the first time. This is a freedom that females seem to embrace on an unconscious level which our male counterparts acquiesce. But just exactly what is safe behavior? And why are some behaviors categorized as innocent and safe? We won't attempt to break it down like the cantankerous doctor “House”, but will urge you to ask yourself certain questions before you indulge on the playing field.

No one wants to get a phone call on Monday morning that leads you to sift through your MD buisiness cards. So we are here to help remind you ALL that communication is key for all parties involved-as individuals, as couples, as threesomes, et cetera, etc. As women, we bare most of the responsibility whether we'd like to or not. The lifestyle IS a female driven society regardless of   the dominate/submissive dynamics of your relationship.

We've always enjoyed the many fulfilling friendships we had over the years and have continued to do so because of our mindful attempts to respect everyone by not using “getting caught up in the moment” as an excuse for irresponsible behaviors. We remind you to do the same.

Lola and Devon. Be Well. Be you.